‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response’   Victor Frankl

 

The beauty of the ‘space’ between. The space between something happening to us and our response to it.

 

Have a read of the quote again.

 

What does this mean to you?

 

What questions does it raise?  

 

This is something that I’ve been personally working on for many years, as I eventually came to the realisation that as much as I wanted to create a peaceful life, I realised that stressors will still exist and will continue to exist outside of me. I couldn’t avoid them.

 

My big realisation was that the key to a situation resulting in either a peaceful or stressful outcome was how I dealt or responded to it.

 

That big one – personal responsibility.

 

You see, whether we want to admit it or not 🙂 We all have a choice as to how we respond to life. We all get served experiences that we don’t want, things don’t go our way and then there’s the inevitable…… devastation and loss.

 

The thing is, there are so many things in our lives that can send our stress levels rocketing.

 

When that irritant, annoying thing happens – be that a situation or something someone said that you don’t like – you have a choice. 

 

Do you react – scream, shout, get angry, go off in a huff, shut down and ignore the issue

 

OR do you create space. Stop, take deep breaths, allow the building of anger/energy, your patterned unconscious response to dissipate and then respond from a calmer place? You literally feel time slow down, a sense of clarity comes over you and you can see the situation from all angles, not just from your perspective.

 

When we respond reactively it can create a host of additional issues, affecting our relationships yes, but can also be very toxic to our bodies.  Sending our heart rate beating at a super fast rate. Puts us in the fight or flight response that exhausts us mentally and physically with adrenaline and cortisol pumping through our system which in turn causes a whole heap of tension and stress on our entire system. 

 

And you know what the BRILLIANT news is..? We have the power, the power to change the outcome.  

 

I’ve found that the more I practice, the easier it gets.  So my advice is to start practicing now. 

 

When something irritates you. Stop and breathe.  Don’t react. Notice your bodily sensations. Create some space in your body and mind to feel into what’s going on.  And then, when the time is right and you feel calm, respond from that more mindful place.

 

In my own life, I’ve reacted and I know what the outcome has been. I’ve also shut down, become the victim. And that’s not served me well either.

 

I think that one of the shared human needs and desires that we all have is for freedom.

 

Freedom comes when we respond with heart from a truly present place. This is where we progress and grow.  And this is inner peace.

 

I wish you so much inner peace in your life and do comment below if you’d like to share your experiences x

 

 

Have you noticed how calm you feel when you’re in nature, on holiday, writing, creating, dancing, swimming……?  You feel present, you’re not worrying about the past or the future. You’re in the moment of flow.

And when we’re in this place we feel relaxed, we allow fresh ideas and inspiration to come through to us. Because we’ve created space from our incessant thinking. But what if we could feel more like this in the day to day, no matter what happens to us, no matter if nothing goes our way? Where we literally feel this sense of calm and ease even when everything around us is hectic; trains are late, car breaks down, we have a sleepless night….But still we are cool as a cucumber.

In this episode you’ll learn:

My 10 top tips to finding inner calm in the day to day:

1. Tidy up
2. Write it all down & prioritise
3. Plants, plants, plants
4. Essential oils
5. Grounding
6. Conscious breathing
7. Set some boundaries
8. Move your body
9. Stillness
10. Enquire and journal

This is really just the start though.  As we delve deeper, as we slow down, magic reveals itself and our lives begin aligning in the way we truly desire them to. It’s really got to be experienced to be believed.

If you want my FREE guide to inner calm where I break this all down, and you’ll also get a little bonus worksheet to follow then grab it here

If you’re interested in delving deeper into the coaching realms with someone who’s gone through this transformation and can be your guide on the side to listen and hold your hand on your journey to more inner peace & calm, better health and happier relationships, then contact me for a FREE 30 min discovery session

Let’s connect:

web: claire-bradshaw.com

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Claire Baker is an Australian women’s coach and writer based in London. Through her popular blog, eBooks, online courses and live workshops, Claire teaches self-care, creative rekindling, how to live life aligned with your menstrual cycle and being kind to yourself and the world. Claire believes in less stress and more flow (and dark chocolate) and knows that working with our natural rhythms is ‘the missing key’ when it comes to women’s wellness. She’ll have you throwing out the scales, booking the flight, launching the blog – and falling back in love with your life.

I’ve been following Claire’s journey for a number of years and I’ve loved how she’s evolved, she’s shared her story and journey with so much heart and is now gifting some incredible teachings to the world with her menstrual cycle work – through workshop delivery, retreats, books and online programs.  She is truly someone who walks her talk and embraces what she teaches in her daily life.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How tracking and aligning with your menstrual cycle can help to connect with yourself on a deeper level
• How Claire’s personal journey guided her to become an expert of the female cycle and menstrual coach
• Learn about the different seasons of the the menstrual cycle- the associated feelings/energy levels and how to work with it as a means of ultimate self care and honouring womanhood
• How working with her menstrual cycle has had a profound influence on Claire’s life
• We discuss whether men have a cycle…..!?
• How to get started with your own cycle awareness and tracking
• How tracking your cycle could help you to connect with your intuition

To connect with Claire, go to:

Website: www.thisislifeblood.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsLifeblood/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_clairebaker_/

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